Meeting Other Moms

I love to meet other people. Mostly, because I love to pick their brains and observe them in their natural (or unnatural) environment as they try to navigate the murky waters of socializing. One of the things we do on HippyMom is encourage all of our members to get offline and meet and make real-life connections. Not that the online friendships are less important, but there’s nothing like being able to find a friend who will meet you for coffee, bring you a lice comb, or just be there when you need to talk (and not type).

Its hard for many moms to break out of their routine and take the time to meet others. I’ve heard (and been personally devastated by) horror stories about mom’s groups, play groups, and other venues where other women can be… well, less than “evolved.” That alone can keep a mom from trying to find local friends. Toss in scheduling conflicts, allergies, weather or any number of external factors, and women are forgetting they are women, they’re moms, stuck at home or work, with little to no interaction beyond those walls.

Sad, right?

There is hope, though. Beyond HippyMom (which, I must say, is a fabulous way to “meet” people before you actually meet people… click here to see who is in your area!) there are many ways to use your online time to meet others offline. The benefit to the online meeting sites is that you get to eliminate the “what if we have nothing in common” fears and begin to filter people before you even meet them. If you’re looking for a friend in your area who shares your love for kite building, hiking, organic foods or freebies, then you can tailor your “group” search to those terms. Get on Craigslist (the “strictly platonic” area, unless you want some “benefits,” too) for individual calls for friends, or post your own. The Internet is a tool for connecting, and instead of spending your time farming on Facebook, send someone a message and see if they want to grab lunch. Put yourself out there, find your own tribe of people (or just that one soul mate) and see what happens next.

Other sites for friendship harvesting:

Meetup.com
MomsLikeMe.com
Tribe.net
RaisingThem.com

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Meditations on Abundance

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Spring is now a memory of cool evenings, warmer days, and the misery of allergies for many of us as a new season of growth burst into life around us.  Now that summer is here we shift to a period of abundance and fertility, and since our gardens and grocery stores are full of a variety of delicious and colorful fruits and vegetables it is easy to slip into longer days, summer sunshine, and the frenzy of organizing ball games and family cookouts.  Since many of us still have to work during these hot and often muggy days we can end up running from one event and responsibility to another without stopping for a moment to enjoy the abundance around us.  This leaves us once again with little time to breathe, collect our thoughts, and take some time to appreciate the changing season, but summer is the perfect time to stop and literally smell the flowers whenever we can.  One way to do this is to take a few minutes to meditate just as you might have in the springtime, and there are many wonderful ways to connect to the world around you now that everything is growing and blooming around you.

If you are lucky enough to have a garden or be near a park you can simply take a few moments to state your intention to connect with nature, center yourself, and open all your senses to the world around you before you begin to walk slowly through the park or wander through your garden.  Another variation on this type of meditation is to focus on one sense for the whole meditation one time and another sense during another walk.  For instance, as you walk through your garden you would hear birds singing, bees buzzing, children playing, and meditate on how all these creatures join together to fulfill their own function and place in nature.  You could then add yourself to the equation if you like and see where you feel you fit into that community, exploring any changes you might want to make to fit into the space you would like to occupy.  Do you feel connected to the creatures you hear or is something in your life blocking you from centering yourself between the earth beneath you and sky above you?

You could repeat this meditation sniffing the fragrances or admiring the bright colors, and another exercise that can become a type of meditation is simply picking produce from the garden.  I hold and notice the marks on a tomato as I collect it or feel the warmth in a blueberry just before I pop it in my mouth and taste the sunshine, and I think about how we depend on the cycle rain, earth, and sunshine to create this miraculous berry or squash we can enjoy.  If you are in your garden take a moment to look around and notice how the plants grow without your intervention while you sleep and according to a plan laid down within them long ago, and this is a wondrous concept to contemplate whatever your belief system holds to be the reason for that cycle.  Even as you prepare what you gather or cook what you buy you can consider these things, and as you taste the flavors of summer you can close your eyes and taste the sunshine and warmth that nurtured your food.

If you happen to live in an area where you may not have access to a garden or park you can still celebrate the summer by making a few adjustments to the above suggestions.  You can find a small inexpensive plant and sit in the sunshine with it and enjoy its presence, or you can simply close your eyes on your back step and visualize whatever you wish as you feel the heat on your face.   You can imagine the plant growing to meet your hand and helping you connect to earth and warmth, and even if you have five minutes and are in your car in traffic you can visualize the coolness of the ocean or standing in a field of your favorite summer vegetable.  I personally can easily visualize standing in an endless field of ripe, juicy watermelons and feel more refreshed just thinking about enjoying them, but with some practice you can find whatever works for you.

Whether you walk through the park, work in your garden, notice your favorite flowers on your way to work, or sit on your step, don’t forget to thank the earth for the gifts she gives us and find some time to appreciate the abundance that will only be present for another few weeks.  Float in a pool and daydream, work up a sweat pulling weeds while consider how deeply rooted they are and how persistent they can be, or watch your children play ball, but whatever you do this summer don’t forget to take time for yourself, appreciate the sunshine and warmth, and indulge in your own version of summer meditation.

~MamaBirdie of The Inside Life

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Digit@l Pros(e)

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V gets into the Swing of Things… wheeeee!

A few laughs from N8V Running. Hell yeah.

Another UnCool Girl lesson from Melia, the Queen of Dorks. Ironic, eh?

Soaking up the Solstice Sun, LadyHawk talks Litha.

Spectacular Me is a big whiny-faced veggie hater.

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Solstice Meditation

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For most of us summer brings to mind sun, outdoor recreation, perhaps water activities, gardening, and sweltering days mowing lawns, and hordes of mosquitoes and other insects.  This summer my favorite activity that I have indulged in is meditation, and I have discovered that summer meditations are actually quite popular and really worth the time and effort.  There are sites that have pictures and instructions for planting summer meditation gardens and sites with music downloads and meditations, and even workshops that are held during the summer that teach you how to meditate using many disciplines if you care to browse around and have the time and resources to plant or travel.

Since I can’t go to Europe for a workshop and I won’t be planting a garden designed for meditation this year I simply use the same basic meditation techniques I use all year, but make some variations that you can try if you have a few spare minutes.  I highly recommend that everyone meditate, but those of us who feel stressed and stretched to our limits can especially benefit from a few minutes a time or two a day if that is all we can work into our schedule.  It really is simple with a little practice, and if you feel intimidated by the prospect of meditating, much less during the busy and active summer, here are some suggestions that may help you relax and restore your energy and calm so you can actually enjoy your summer this year.

Summer is the perfect time to connect to all the life around us and enjoy the sun’s warmth in a unique way, so I suggest that you take a walk around your yard if you have one or find a spot on your porch or steps if you don’t.  Another wonderful option is a nearby park or wildlife area that you might be able to relax in for a few minutes, but if you don’t have any of these available you can even sit inside and put on some music that has outside sounds included so you can visualize being outside.

When you find an area where you can sit or lie down safely without being disturbed for a few minutes just get comfortable and become aware of your breathing.  You can either open your eyes and focus on something such as a  flower or the sound of bees or birds, or you can close your eyes so you can experience all of the sensory input you will receive more clearly.  You will simply breathe deeply and slowly and if you start thinking of your stress ors gently bring your attention back to your breathing, and you can enjoy all the scents and sounds around you as you start to relax and leave your stress behind.  That is seriously all there is to basic meditation, so there is no need to feel you can’t benefit from it.

Summer is a perfect time to meditate on how amazing life is and how our lives are full of cycles and phases, and this is a great opportunity to even take a walking meditation while breathing in the scents and admiring the beauty around us or swim and contemplate lovely it feels as we can glide through the cool water after a hot day in the garden.  As I sit at my desk right now I hear birds chirping outside, and it is quick and simple to close my eyes and listen while I breathe and feel my pulse slow and my mind relax.  You can do as I have been doing this summer and notice places that are good for stealing a few minutes to yourself for meditation and relaxation even if you can’t take a long vacation or get out for some summer fun.

The magic to meditating is that your imagination is limitless and the ways you can find to take a few minutes to breathe, take in the summer ambiance around you, find your place inside to center yourself, and then stretch and go on with your day are as well.  Meditation isn’t only something that monks or yogis who have hours at a time can practice, but simply the practice of taking a few minutes to still your body and mind and recharge. Don’t miss out on a great opportunity to enhance your summer fun and get healthier without breaking a sweat.  Listen, sniff, and feel that warm sun on you as you take a mini vacation as often as you can.  You’ll be glad you did and you will have wonderful memories of your summer to think back on during the cold winter months.

~ MamaBirdie, meditative blogger at The Inside Life

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Celebrate Solstice with HippyMom!

Summer Solstice Celebration


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As the wheel turns again we find ourselves coming upon Summer Solstice on (June 21, 2010). Litha – Midsummer is one of the Lesser Wiccan Sabbats. The sun is at the height of it power before beginning its slide into darkness and we experience the longest day and shortest night of the year.

It is important to note that the separation of the light and dark halves of the year have nothing to do with good and evil. Light signifies growth and expansion; dark means withdrawal and rest. Both are necessary. While steamy Midsummer marks the beginning of the Sun’s dying strength the season itself is very lush, erotic and sexy. Just like all of our Mama’s on HippyMom.

The Sun, flowers and Earth are in full bloom. Hot midsummer creates a fiery, mature, breathless passion. On June 21, at this point of the year the crops are coming along nicely; let’s celebrate our own beautifies by posting some pictures.

In addition, on this midsummer day the veil between the worlds is said to be very thin making this a great time for divination ~ Historically many maidens would divine a husband at this time. Midsummers Eve is said to be a time when fairies abound in great numbers this is a great time to commune with them and leave gifts of sweets outdoors.

Watch our own Solstice fireworks on the HippyMom Forum!

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This post was written by hippymom on June 18, 2010

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