I want the fairytale, the happily ever after.
Yeah, it can happen!
When does it happen? Did it work out for Rachel or skinny Marie?
Those were very specific cases of crackheads.
I’m asking you who it worked for.
You want me to give you a name? Oh, the pressure of a name… I got it! Cinder-fuckin-rella.

Pretty Woman, 1990

I’ve been waiting pretty much all my life for a white knight on thunderous black horse to storm the drawbridge, slay the dragon, and carry me- daintily slung over his massive shoulder – to a new life. At no point in the last 35 years has reality interfered with this fantasy, probably because the soundtrack in my head is something romantic and operatic despite any real life happenings…just imagine all the best parts of Moonstruck and you’ll have a tiny window into the maze of my crazy.

Walking down the aisle to a person I didn’t love? Moonstruck theme.
Divorcing that same person after lots of very bad, no good but quite conducive to growth happenings? Moonstruck theme (a little softer).

Realizing I’m gay? Moonstruck theme is apparently no respecter of gender!

Even though I know the Disney fantasy will never, ever happen to me…and most of the time, as a feminist, I sneer at such fantasies, I must admit to the teensy tiny part inside of me that sighs with pleasure at the thought that there is someone to rescue me. The hardest part of being single isn’t rolling over in bed without someone there to hog your covers. It’s having a flat tire on the freeway in the middle of the night, realizing that a) you don’t know how to change a tire b) you really should know how to change a tire c) by the time you figure it out, you could be accosted and end up the subject of a documentary d) you can’t find your insurance card to call a tow truck, anyway. So, you’re just screwed. And single. But you can eat waffles in bed if you want to! Hooray for progress.

Show me a little girl who doesn’t like to play princess. Show me a little boy who doesn’t instinctively want to conquer and/or rescue. It’s so easy to fall into the trap, even when you know better. Even the best self-help books and movies are wanting us to hurry up and make ourselves fabulous so we can live the dream! Meet another fabulous person just waiting in the wings!

So I’m here with a challenge during this month of women’s history. Show yourself the same you that you’d display to your soulmate. And do it often. Whether that means taking care of yourself physically, spiritually, emotionally, or just lighting some candles and indulging yourself with subtitled movies, you’re worth all the romance and passion that any fairytale has ever put in your head. But this time, the knight rides up and pulls off that helmet to stare you back in the face. The knight smiles. Waves. Turns up the theme to Moonstruck. And toasts herself in the mirror.

~ Anonymous

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